I received an email from a friend today. She was telling me about some of difficulties she and her co-workers were going through. Layoffs. Illnesses. Car accidents. Deaths.
I was reminded once again that everyone is going through something difficult. Sure, the degree of difficulty is different, but difficulty is also relative, isn’t it?
Dealing with a death is certainly more difficult than dealing with the flu, but if you’re the one with the flu and still have to care for three young children, then life is hard at the moment. Really hard.
It’s not just adults that experience difficult times though. Our kids do, too.
We moved from Little Rock to Fayetteville, Arkansas last year. For Robyn and me, it’s been a great move. It was ministry that brought us here and it’s going well.
Our two youngest kids didn’t ask for a move though. They liked where we were. They liked their schools, their neighborhood, the house we lived in and most of all, their friends.
Our kids had to start completely over. Different house. Different schools. Different friends. They’ve done remarkably well, but it’s been difficult at times.
Maybe it’s not adjusting to a move, but your kids are facing something difficult today. Your daughter might not feel pretty. It could be that your son is not as athletically gifted as his friends. Maybe they feel like they’re not in the cool group at school.
Those issues may not seem like much and will resolve themselves given a little time, but they’re a big deal to your child. Today is difficult.
What can you do as a dad? Well, it’s important to know what’s going on in your child’s life, so making time to talk is important, but let me suggest something else, as well.
Be quick to shower your children with lots of grace. Drench them in it.
A poor attitude, talking back or disobedience might just be an indication that something is going on inside. Maybe your child is lonely or scared or feels rejected. Your child needs to know you care and understand…and that grace is abundant.
SOUND OFF: What difficulties are your kids facing? Are you showing them grace?