I picked my daughter, Amy, up from school one day last week and stopped off at Chick-fil-a. We were both hungry, but I also had a couple issues I wanted to discuss.
She was a little surprised by my questions, but our discussion went very well. As we were wrapping up, she asked me if our talk was the reason we’d stopped for something to eat. I said it was and thanked her for not being defensive.
Amy would be the first to admit that the drive to and from school is not her favorite time of day to talk. (I have her permission to share that!) Stopping for something to eat made our discussion not only possible but very enjoyable…for both of us.
Choosing the right time and place to talk makes all the difference. I didn’t always understand that, which led to a lot of mistakes with my oldest daughter. I often picked the wrong time and place to talk with her. The result was that we battled each other more than we talked. Fortunately, we have a great relationship today.
Have you found a good time and place to talk with your children? If not, give it some thought. Keep in mind, it will likely be different for each child. Makes it interesting, right?
SOUND OFF: What’s working for you? How have you determined when and where you address issues with your children? Do you discuss with your spouse first?