~ Right then I realized, my day had passed. She’ll always love me, of course, but not in the same way. I was no longer the man in my little girl’s life. I was like an old shoe. The kind we manufacture and get all excited about, then after a few years discontinue. That was me now. Mr. Discontinued.~ George Banks
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That quote from George Banks, the dad in one of our family’s favorite movies (Father of the Bride-1991) is related to his daughter getting married. Well, our daughter isn’t getting married (hopefully she’d actually be dating someone first) but she continues to knock out the logical hurdles as we move closer to that date in the (very distant :)) future: Prom Night.
In the last post I shared with you the way I, as a father, viewed this whole Prom thing. The idea of watching her dress up for a night that signifies her last major event before before graduation and then off to college, gives me a little pain, a little tear. And, seeing the price of the dress brings more pain, more tears. But that will all pale in comparison to the tears I will shed when I have to give my daughters hand away to the man God has brought to her for marriage.
Currently, we are far from that. Prom night reminds me that we’re not as far off as it might seem (or as I might like it to be :)). Truthfully, I’ve been praying for both of my daughters’ wedding day since before they were born (and my son’s as well). Though there are no guarantees, I’m confident God will answer according to His plan for their lives. Yet, before we hear wedding bells we will hear door bells from some Neanderthals who come by to date our daughters.
Dennis Rainey of FamilyLife (the ministry that my wife and I have served with for the past five+ years) has written a book entitled, Interviewing Your Daughters Date, and in it he has provided some great counsel for dads when it comes to meeting the knuckle-scraping young man who’s come to take your daughter out. The idea is to actually interview her date well before the actual evening arrives.
Now, I’ve only had to do this interviewing-thing twice (for my oldest daughters Prom date–even though she wasn’t interested in him in THAT way and for a very short dating relationship my youngest daughter was in as a Junior). But, each time, I used Dennis’ tips to help me conduct the interview. Here are just a couple of the things he mentions in the book, Interviewing Your Daughters Date– a few of the 8 Things to ask or share with your daughters prospective date during the interview:
1) Make sure he understands that your daughter is the most precious gift in the world and she is God’s handiwork.
3) Remind him that you were once a teenager with raging hormones so you know EXACTLY what he’s thinking
7) Confirm that he understands your message
You’ll have to get the book to get the whole interview down pat. GOOD NEWS!! Check back on Friday because I’ll be sharing how you can win a free copy of Dennis Rainey’s book, Interviewing Your Daughter’s Date.