As I thought about what I would share today, I thought about something that I need to do for myself. I need to take a test to help me know and secure more knowledge about my kids. There are some things I know. But, one of the things that I’ve said about my mom and dad is that they really don’t know me. They don’t know the kind of music I listen to, the food I like, the friends I have, etc. And, honestly, I wouldn’t expect them to know all of those details. But, it’s hard to really know someone, even your children, if you don’t know some of the things that make them tick. That’s the heart of today’s FD Challenge.
On a piece of paper for each child (or on a computer doc) see if you can answer these questions about your children:
- What is their eye color?
- What is their best friends name?
- What is their favorite hobby or thing to do when they have free time?
- Who is their favorite actor/actress?
- What is their favorite movie or movie genre?
- Who are they listening to on their iPod’s?
- If they could change places with one person for a day, who would it be?
- What is their shoe size?
- What is their favorite sport to play? to watch?
- What school subject do they enjoy the most? the least?
- What medications (if any) are they taking?
- When was the last time they went to the doctor?
- What kind of books do they like to read? Who is their favorite author?
- What is their favorite single food? Meal? Restaurant?
- When they are really thirsty, what do they grab first to drink?
- If they could change one thing about themselves, what would it be?
- If they could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
- What’s their favorite mode of transportation?
- Are they afraid of anything? What?
- Do they feel loved by the people they are closest to?
How’d you do? I don’t think I would score very well on my own test. Another challenge that is applicable for me to do alongside you. You can come up with your own questions if you want. The purpose is twofold: First, if you knew these things about your child at any age, don’t you think it’d help you communicate and draw nearer to them? Wouldn’t it give you more things to talk about and show them you do care for them beyond a grunt of acknowledgement over the computer screen (used to be the newspaper) while they shared their day with you? Second, it gives you some insight into their lives and may reveal some things that trigger issues that might need some more attention. For instance, if you find out they are afraid of a kid at school, it might lead you to find out they are being bullied. Or, if you hear that they would want to be skinnier and they are already pretty thin, maybe they are involved in or could easily be led into an eating disorder.
Getting a chance to understand your children better doesn’t have to be painful. I think sitting down, seeing how many of these questions you can answer for each of your children (Duggar’s exempt from this) will help you to truly see how much (or little) you know about them. And, if you’re like me and unable to answer a lot of these, will give you a chance to set up a few dates or soda times to go through them…not like a drill sergeant but as conversation pieces that will show them you care about them and getting to know who they really are deep down. It will also give you a chance to share about some of the things that make you, you! But, that is tomorrow’s challenge. For today, take the 20 question exam and see if you pass, dad. Have fun! Is it larger than a breadbox…