If you haven't noticed, it's election season. Just thought I would be your news source. Seriously, as I watch the continual banter and bashing by each candidate and their teams, I am growing weary and have a tough time continuing to try and slog through the rhetoric to get to the meat of what each candidate is all about. I'm not sure if it's even possible with all the information being thrown at us by news, faux news, comedy (or lack thereof) shows, etc. Recently, there have been an inundation of polls telling us who is leading the national poll and the key states. I've heard that there are over 80 different polls and nearly all of them show a different result. So, which one do you believe? Do you think a poll can sway a voter? I do.
Call me naive but who really likes to watch a game when they “know” the score. I've DVR'd plenty of my favorite sports teams because I really felt that I would go back and watch the highlights. Then, when the home team loses by 48, it's click…delete. I won't watch one play or waste my time. If my team won, I may actually flip through and watch the “highlights” but almost never the “lowlights”. Somehow I feel that the pollsters and those who show them know that. Without getting too political, I have my opinions but if a news network really was behind the current candidate wouldn't it behoove them to show polls that are significantly in favor of that candidate, even when a number of the other 80+ polls show significantly different results? Of course. Everyone wants to play on a winning team. They are playing on the same sentiment that befalls me when I “know” or think I know that I'm fighting an uphill battle and it won't do me any good to keep fighting, kind of like watching a game that's already over and my team lost. Click…delete. So, what's that got to do with fatherhood, you ask?
Well, I think that sometimes as a dad, we feel that it's game over with our kids. We've seen the score and it feels like Kids 100, Dads 0. Feeling like a failure is common among dads. At times we may sense that we have had some success but then something happens with, to or from our kids and we feel that weight settling in again. And, if we are disconnected from our kids through divorce, work or other issues, it's so easy to simply click…delete. We give up. Our kids will understand. They will work it out. They have their mom…their friends…their lives. Don't believe it for a minute dads. The final poll isn't in yet. If you are breathing, you have time to turn the polls in your favor.
Recently I learned of a 30+ year old friend whose parents recently divorced. The pain was as real (and maybe more so) as if it had happened in their earlier years of emotional and mental formation. If broken relationships hurt just as bad later in life, they can also be turned around later in life and make a significant impact to all involved. Unlike a football game, life is not measured in knowable time. Though the clock is ticking, we don't know how many of those ticks we each have left. So, dad, it's not too late to pick up the phone, leave work early, send a letter, buy a plane ticket or send a text to a child where your approval poll has been very much down. Are you breathing? Do you care? If you answered yes to both of those, you can turn the poll in your favor.
There is nothing better in sports or politics than a comeback win. And, there is nothing that means more than a comeback win in life and relationships. It's time for a comeback, dad. I'm rooting for you. Don't let pride, polls or pain get in your way. Restoration may not happen with one phone call. But, I can assure you it won't happen without one. Click…PLAY!