Who wants to leave a legacy that is rich and full? What will your children say about you years after you’ve departed this earth? How much of your life will they remember? WIll they know why you responded the way you did? DId they ever get a glimpse into your life? Those are questions that many of us think about periodically but seldom do anything to address them constructively and proactively. That’s what this project wants to help you accomplish. By spending time each month writing out a response to various questions about your life, you will be leaving a written legacy that will help your children know who you are, remember you more clearly and, prayerfully, help them to handle situations in their life with wisdom God speaks through you to them.
As a reminder to how this will work: Each week on Monday, the DadPad will publish about 3 or 4 questions out of the book/journal, A Father’s Legacy: Your Life Story in Your Own Words. Together we will spend time during the week writing our response to those questions. I suggest you get a nice journal to record your responses, one that can be passed down. But, you could put them in electronic format and then print them for a binder, handwrite them and do the same or actually purchase the journal that I’m using, A Father’s Legacy (you can order it from Amazon – no, I’m not getting anything for your purchase).
If you’re ready with pen in hand, here are the first few questions for the month of March:
- Do you remember your first communion? What influence did it have on you and your family?
- Describe your favorite pastime or hobby as a child.
- What mischievous prank did you pull on someone? How did it affect you?
- Did you have a television when you were growing up? What was your favorite program? Why?
That’s it for this week. I hope you are able to spend a few minutes this week taking some time to think through these questions and provide more than just Twitter-like responses. Even if the question doesn’t reflect you well, think about a way you can twist the question a bit in order that you can provide a little meat to the reply. For instance, maybe you can’t remember your first communion because you didn’t attend a liturgical church that had it available at a certain age. So you might rephrase it, “What was the first significant spiritual experiece you had? How did it affect you immediately and later in your life?, or something like that.
I hope you decide to take this challenge. I know that some of you have difficult and even painful backgrounds. You’ll have to be the judge if you are mentally capable of going to some of those darker places. Though you shouldn’t go into all the detail of some of those areas, it will still be beneficial for your kids so they can understand some of the things that make/made up who are. Imagine the breadth and depth of the revelation of your life that will be recorded for them to remember you. And, because it’s in writing, you’ll spend a little more time thinking about it. And as you start to process through some of these questions there may be some self discovery that takes place that may be new to you. Not new in the sense of never happening before but new in how you make connections between things that happened and ways you respond to similar situations today. That could be very beneficial to your personal growth as a man, though it could also bring about some painful parts of your past. Healthy but painful.
Periodically shoot me an email at [email protected] or leave a comment on one of these posts to let me know how you are doing. And, follow me on Facebook at facebook.com/dadpad and Twitter at twitter.com/dadpad to see these questions posted throughout the week and share your thoughts there as well. Heeeeere we go!