June is the month of weddings. I had almost forgotten how many people decide to get married in June. Now that my children are in their mid/early 20’s they are going to a lot of weddings. And, of course, many of our friends are near our age and their children are also at the “marrying” ages. So, we are reminded of the plethora of weddings that take place in or around June! This week’s legacy questions focus on our marriage and relationship with “mom”.
I’ve been a little lax in our Leaving a Legacy journey recently. If you have been walking this journey with us you had a lot of time to catch up and get your journal up to date, right ;)? If you are a first timer to the DadPad and not sure what I am talking about, I started a journey about 4 months ago and asked fathers all over the country to join me. We are taking a book/journal that was published a number of years ago called, A Father’s Legacy: Your Life Story in Your Own Words by J. Countryman, a division of Thomas Nelson Inc. The premise of the journal was to ask about 10-12 questions for each month of the year and give some space for a dad to record things about his life (interests, school, career decisions, marriage stories, etc.) thus leaving a written memory for his children and his children’s children. All I’ve done is to help facilitate a process where men will take the time to answer these questions and put them into their own journal so that one day their children will have a written record of their fathers’ life. I’ve been asking about 3-4 questions a week but we need to make up some ground so get pens that have lots of ink and let’s get back to our Leaving a Legacy journal.
Questions for this week…
- If you learned to play a musical instrument, tell me your memories of lessons, practice and your music teacher. If not, what instrument did you want to play and why?
- What were your youthful goals and ambitions for life? Which ones have you been able to fulfill?
- How old were you when you met Mom? What attracted you to her?
- When did you know that Mom was the ‘one and only one’ for you? How did you know?
- Share a memory about the way you proposed to Mom.
- Tell me about your wedding day. What happened? How did you feel? Were you nervous? Scared? Happy?
- Where id you go on your honeymoon? Describe at least one humorous thing that happened to you and Mom.
Well, that’s it. We are back on track. I would love to hear from any of you that are doing this and what you are experiencing as you recall as best you can some memories that might be a long way back for many of us. What are your plans for one day giving this to your kids? Will you read it to them? Make copies? Have just one master copy? Let’s keep the dialog going. We have a number of months left to go so if you haven’t started, you’re not really behind. There is no right or wrong way to approach this. The idea is simply to record a number of aspects of your life that your kids don’t know about so that they get an idea of who their father was and is as a man…your interests, experiences, adventures, struggles, hardships, successes and joys. I would love it if we got a movement of men who were starting to think about what they’ll leave behind because I believe when we understand what we want to leave we will make sure we go forward in a manner worthy of leaving something worthwhile to our kids and their kids.
Until next time…Happy Journaling.