It’s been a while but as I indicated in my last blog post (which was before I went on the first vacation I’ve been on in more than 25 years with just my wife and no agenda) Monday’s would be our Legacy Journal day. If you were following us from before, it’s time to pick up those pens and start journaling again. Since it’s been a while, let me quickly go over what we are doing:
We are preparing a journal as dads to leave to our children. It’s a journal that requires us to answer some questions about our past, our interests, some personal exposes and other information (fun and serious) that we are recording for the benefit of our children and our legacy. The questions are coming out of a book entitled, A Father’s Legacy: Your Life Story in Your Own Words, by J. Countryman, a division of Thomas Nelson publishing. Each week I have (up until about 8 weeks ago) share three or four questions from that journal. Then, it’s up to YOU to put them into some kind of format that you can then put into a binder, journal, or booklet (or purchase the journal and use it like I am) of some kind that you can eventually give to your kids. That’s it. Pretty straightforward.
Sometimes I will include a story related to one or more of the questions. Other times, I’ll simply be brief and lay out the questions for the week. I do hope you are going through this with me. The benefits of giving your children a lot more of you when it’s time for you to leave this earth is a powerful concept. Once you’re gone, you can’t give them any more of you. This is a great way to do that. So, if you are just starting, don’t worry about going back and starting over. You can put these questions in any order you want and answer as many of them at once as you desire. It’s not about the order or the speed. It’s about being intentional and putting something together that will be a great archive of your life for your kids and their kids.
So, are you ready to start or resume the Father’s Legacy journal? Here are this week’s questions:
- Do you remember the first meals mom (their mom) cooked for you? Do you dare comment on it/them?
- Describe where you and mom lived after you got married. What was the view like from the kitchen window?
- When did you and mom start talking about having children? Why did you want children (or did you)?
- If you could go anywhere in the world on a second honeymoon, where you go and why?
- What do you love best about mom now?
- Record here your ideas on what it takes for a husband and wife to maintain a healthy marriage?
See how this all works? Some of the questions are just fun questions about you (and in this series of questions your relationship with the kids’ mom). Some are more “strategic”. For example, that last question is a great way to leave them some insight about what you’ve learned about marriage over the years. A great tool for your children to use as they near marrying age.
This actually concludes the month of June in the actual book, A Father’s Legacy. So, I’m going to keep going in that book in order (in other words, we’ll start with the questions listed for July in the book but we’ll be increasing the number of questions just to see if we can’t catch up by the end of the year. I hope you are enjoying this project. If so, share it with other men in your church, community group, workplaces, etc., and get them to join you in the journaling journey.
Until next monday, happy journaling.