It’s become pretty ubiquitous to share old images and other content on Thursdays. I guess the alliteration of the phrase Throwback Thursday (#tbt) is what started it. In any event, I thought it might be a great chance to re-introduce you to some of the old DadPad posts that you may not have seen. The DadPad is over 5 years old. Though we’ve had seasons of frequent posting and some desert times too, there have been some posts that have done very well and some that were like Oscar Winning movies….loved by the inner crowd but never really embraced by the audience :). Now, as a social media consultant I would never tell you to post things that you like vs. what your customer/audience wants but, sometimes, as Harvey Mackay used to say, you have to tell the audience what they want before they can tell you if they want it or not. In other words, they can’t tell you they like it if they don’t know it’s there to like. Catch my drift? Anyway, Here’s an excerpt from one of the first DadPad posts, “I’m Listening, Really”. It actually is pretty convicting for me to read and re-post this (because I still struggle with this…ouch). Enjoy
A couple of months ago while home from college, my daughter and I spent a lunch together on one of our periodic dates. It was a great time to catch up with her and live in her world for a few hours. I have missed hearing the regular details of her life during her freshman year. You know, the personal details that spill out over dinner or in car rides to church. Our conversation ebbed and flowed. Then, during one of those pregnant pauses that mark every good conversation, I snatched the opportunity to buzz-kill a light discussion. I thought all dads did that ;). I never miss the opportunity to “teach” a life lesson, much to the chagrin of my children. “So, honey, as you look back on our days together as a family, are there things that I’ve done as a dad that you wish I hadn’t done or would have done differently or would change now?” Door opened. And she entered.
“Well, dad, actually there isn’t too much I would change. You’re a good dad.” People sitting around us had difficulty breathing as my head consumed all of the nearby air. She began, “But…” Ahhh…the proverbial “but”. Psssssst–that was the sound of the air quickly leaving my once inflated noggin. She continued, “But, I wish you would put down your computer and look at me when we talk so that I know you’re listening to me”. Ouch. All I could think was, “well, you asked for it.” It reminded me of a saying a friend of mine used to make, “be careful what you ask for, because you may not like the response.” Fact is, I knew she was right.
Maybe this particular issue isn’t one you’re child would raise as a barrier in your relationship. Computers have become an extension of my hands. Being connected has almost become an obsession (sounds like a potential blog post). The “point” of her comment was this, “Dad, when we’re together I want (and I’ll add NEED) you to pay attention to me?” Face-to-face, eye-to-eye. Relationships need both!