Today I read a blog post from a young man I’ve known for years and he made me think a little more deeply about legacy. I got his latest post delivered to my email inbox this afternoon and once again his introspection and thoughtfully worded blog post caught my attention. This time it wasn’t about his mother and her fighting cancer (though maybe upon further reflection it did have something to do with his post) but about a sermon his pastor preached recently about leaving a legacy and legend and an ensuing conversation he and his wife had with another couple on that subject. Here’s an excerpt from his post:
Well, we've had some great response to the last blog entry announcing a giveaway of Dennis Rainey's book, Interviewing Your Daughters Date. As daughters have now gone back to school, many entering High School or College for the first time, this is a great resource for Dads to use to help us navigate this very […]
A father expressing his love exercises an awesome power to shape a life. A father who fails to utilize this power also shapes a life. Present or absent, used or unused, the power of the father is lifelong, and indelible. This sad song wakes me up every time.
It can be disheartening to think the lyrics from the old Sunday school song, “Oh, be careful little ears what you hear” might be applied to my words as a father. Yet, when my kids eagerly invite me to an activity in their world, I may hasten a ‘yes’ out of my eagerness to delight them, only later to find it difficult to comply.
[tweetmeme source= ‘dadpad’ only_single=false] I remember one evening getting up in the middle of the evening to go into another room in our house. Lighting was scarce. My steps were short and slow. With small kids you never know what got left on the floor to inflict pain you can’t describe. And then it happened…a […]
If you ever want to really see the power of a father in a child’s life (good or bad) just ask someone to share thoughts about what they would say to their dad if he was standing there next to them at that moment. I had that opportunity as I worked on the set of […]
As father’s we want to leave a legacy to our children that will make a difference in their lives for good and build into the legacies they’ll leave to their children and their children’s children. We will take turns sharing the things we hope our children remember us for long past Father’s day! Gregg Stutts says…
In the area of disciplining children he shared this thought provoking statement; The difference between abuse and discipline is the difference between intellect and emotion—using intellect leads to discipline—emotion leads to abuse. It’s an interesting thought, isn’t it?
Merriam Webster defines a “counselor” as a person who gives advice. In the role of a lawyer, it’s someone who is an advocate for another. Both are descriptive of being a dad in those “tweener” years. Somewhere north of 7 or 8 years old and prior to high school, our children begin to put things together.
As we segment the lifecycle of fathering into the three chapters of coach, counselor and consultant, it’s commonly perceived that being a coach is the most important part of a dad’s responsibility through the first 6-7 years of their child’s life. I contend that, in reality, a dad is all three of these (coach, counselor, consultant) all the time throughout their children’s lives.